Anger Management

Most people usually calm down after an incident of anger, especially if the problem has been solved or they have been given time to release their emotions and stress. However, some people continue to be angry, day in and day out.Here are some of the usual reasons for constant anger:

Difficulty Expressing Emotions

Some people struggle to express their emotions because they never learned how to do so when growing up. In some families, fear or sadness are considered forms of weakness so they may have learned to cover this up by showing a strong, aggressive resolve. Others may have been taught to not express anger or pain.If left bottled up, anger issues may occur later on in life.

Masking Pain

Though others never learned how to process their emotions, others consciously use it to mask their emotions and pain. When they are scared, lonely, sad, frustrated, or confused, anger becomes their shield so that others will not know what is truly bothering them.

Anger as a Learned Behavior

In other situations, constant anger was the norm growing up. This usually occurs when the parent or guardian also suffered from anger issues. Because of this, the person learned that it was “good” or “okay” to scream, yell, hit others, or break things when things did not go their way, especially if those you were angry with chose to comply rather than fight back. Eventually, this became the person’s norm for dealing with issues in their relationships.

Mental Health Issues

Lastly, there are those whose anger problems stem from a mental health issue. Disorders such as addiction, anxiety, bipolar disorder, depression, or personality disorders can make it difficult for a person to express anger in the right way.

Destructive Effects Of Uncontrolled Anger

Anger that is out of control, difficult to calm down, or explosive in rage is never a good thing. While it may look cool in the comics or on the movie screen, in real life, one experiences a world of trouble if they cannot healthily keep their anger in check.

Anger’s Toll on One’s Health

In today’s society, people are always complaining about stress and how it is taking its toll on their health. Constant anger does the same thing. A person who regularly becomes angry experiences uncomfortable tension in their muscles, a tightening of their chest, quickening of their breath, and a boiling of their blood that makes them feel like they are going to explode.

Headaches, stomach aches, muscle aches, and the like also often occur when a person is uncontrollably angry. If these continue, other more serious health problems may occur such as a heart attack, hypertension, stroke, or a weakened immune system.

When a person is unable to control their anger, it is inevitable that conflict with the close people around you will occur. Though family members may try to understand the situation, in the end, the constant outbursts can damage the family bond, especially when verbal or physical abuse occurs.

The following are some unwanted results of anger issues in the family:

• Broken relationships (e.g. divorce, trust issues) due to emotional or physical hurt;
• Domestic violence;
• Mental health disorders in the family (e.g. addiction, anxiety, depression) because of the environment of fear and uncertainty;
• Negative effects on the children (e.g. poor grades, truancy, rebelliousness); and
• Other unresolved family problems (e.g. financial problems, missed opportunities) due to improper communication and problem-solving.

Anger’s Effects on Others

While it is usually the family that feels the brunt of one’s anger outbursts, the same may also occur to those outside the family. Those with anger management problems may get into heated altercations with colleagues at work, friends, neighbors, or even strangers.

The following are some consequences of such:

• Ruined self-image
• Unnecessary arguments and fights
• Problems at school, work, or in the community
• Trouble with the law

Who Needs To Seek Help For Their Anger?

Anger is a healthy emotion to have if it is directed towards something important like the defense of one’s rights or other cases of injustice. Momentary anger at oneself to improve and become better is also okay. What is NOT alright is when anger is used for the wrong reasons and if it cannot be controlled.

Anger is an issue if it:

• Is used to control others or mask one’s emotions
• Constantly results in bad behavior choices like verbal abuse or tantrum-like fits
• Leads to aggression and/or violence against others, or self-harm
• Causes legal issues or other social problems
• Alienates the person from others

Life, however, is not meant to be lived this way. If any of these issues pertain to you or someone you love, know that Christian counseling in the LA area is available. At Los Angeles Christian Counseling we are committed to assisting people to overcome their anger issues with God’s guidance and divine help.

Regain Control Of Your Anger Through Christian Counseling

Similar to other therapists, in Christian anger management counseling, proven techniques are used to help the sufferer overcome their anger issues. However, Christian counseling takes it one step further by incorporating God’s healing power through faith, prayer, and Scripture. It is only through a Christ-filled life that one may have a peaceful life and use anger for the right purposes.

The experienced, faith-based counselors at Los Angeles Christian Counseling are fully committed to helping individuals and their families heal holistically – emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually – by using the latest counseling practices together with faith in Christ. We have much experience in helping people of differing ages and personal backgrounds overcome their anger issues to become a more peaceful, loving individual who fully trusts in our God.

In Christian anger management counseling, the main goals are for the sufferer to become aware of their condition and actions (self-awareness) and to mend the damage caused by them.

Specifically, Christian anger management counseling helps the sufferer to:

• Better understand what triggers their anger
• Become responsible for their anger and its effects on others
• Heal from any past pain that their anger may be masking
• Learn how to pacify their anger
• Express anger in a proper way
• Connect with Christ so they may fully forgive themselves and others, and lead the life of peace God wants them to have

Christian Anger Management Counseling for Children and Teens

In today’s topsy-turvy world, even children or teens may suffer from anger issues, preventing them from reaching their full potential due to problems at school and home. As parents, it can be very frustrating dealing with such family dynamics, especially if the parent is the problem.

At Los Angeles Christian Counseling, we have Christian counselors who specialize in anger management for kids and for teens. In a safe and neutral environment, the child or teen can open up so that their anger issues may be resolved and the family can become whole once more. But most importantly, as the child or teen forms a strong, loving relationship with Christ, the child or teen may discover the peace and unconditional love that only Christ can give.

Why can anger be hard to control?

As a very intense emotion, anger is naturally difficult to manage. Controlling one’s response is a learned process which is usually done at home and reinforced at school. When this is not learned at a young age, anger management often becomes an issue as a teen or an adult, especially if one is also suffering from other strong emotions like guilt, loneliness, or sadness.

My spouse has anger problems. What can I do?

First, know that an abusive relationship, especially if there is physical violence directed at you or the children, is dangerous. You may first have to physically distance yourself from the situation with the help of others. But afterward, Christian counseling for anger management will help teach your spouse how to control their anger and work towards a more harmonious family life. A person, however, cannot be forced to attend counseling. But if approached in a gentle and loving way, your spouse may be convinced to attend a risk-free initial session.

Does Christian Anger Management Counseling work?

At Los Angeles Christian Counseling, your counselor will use all available tools for the person to manage their anger and heal. This, however, takes time so patience and prayer are necessary. But with Christ’s help and dedication to the counseling process, one can learn how to properly manage their anger and prevent future anger issues.

Take Control Of Your Anger With Christian Counseling

Controlling your anger may seem difficult, but it can be done.If you are in or nearby LA, the Christian counselors at Los Angeles Christian Counseling are here to help you manage your anger. You may speak to us personally in your risk-free initial session to know more about how we can help. Alternatively, you may give us a call at (949) 386-7182 or contact us online to inquire.